Last June, I had planned on celebrating my 9th anniversary as an entrepreneur.
I had all kinds of festive things lined up to celebrate this moment with my followers. I’m the queen of preparation. But then life happened while I was busy making other plans.
My 91-year old mother-in-law passed away, on early Sunday morning. Together with my family, we spent hours and hours with her since Friday afternoon, so it didn’t come as a surprise.
For her, it was a relief. For us, it was sad, but we feel thankful we had her with us for so long as well. And most of all, we feel thankful that her suffering was over.
Her passing put everything into perspective. It’s a huge cliché, but what matters most in life? Your loved ones, your family, your friends. Business is great, but it’s not the most important thing in life.
And it may seem a bit silly to you, but I felt a dilemma too. Because I like to keep things real and I want to be transparent. My followers on social media are dear to me. Many of you feel like friends, even though we have never met in real life.
But do I want to share each and every personal detail of my life, real-time? Do I pretend to be all festive online, celebrating my 9th anniversary as an entrepreneur, while I’m crying over the loss of my darling mother-in-law in real life? That didn’t feel right either. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But then I realized: does the world stop turning when I’m not active on social media for a week? Does anyone suffer when I’m not posting a thing for a few days? Nope, I don’t think so.
So I took a week off to prepare a beautiful funeral in honour of my dear mother-in-law. I chose to be here for my husband while he’s grieving. I wanted to be there for my son who’s now missing his grandmother.
So being visible as a solopreneur? Yes, of course. Sharing everything that’s going on in your life, all the time? No. Because sometimes, things are too personal. And we don’t need to share everything real time. I’d rather have you sharing from the scar, not from the wound.
Sharing from the wound doesn’t give you tribe value, as it’s more like a cry for attention than anything else. In retrospect and a bit of distance from the event itself, it’s a lot easier to connect the dots and see the lesson. And that’s what’s valuable for your tribe to learn from.
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